You have finally found the love of your life, the big question has been asked, the ring is on your finger and now it is time to plan the wedding. Often at least one partner comes not only from a different culture but also has a different religious background. How can we say yes to each other without offending our families? How can we bring our roots into this day? An independent ceremony can be the answer, without any compromise being necessary. This gives the couple the chance to have a festive ceremony rather than only the legal act before the registrar. An independent ceremony should be created according to the couple’s wishes, and their roots can be woven into it as well – for example in the form of a ritual from that cultural background, or of course through language.
Over recent years I have been privileged to draw the words «I do» from a great many couples, and in doing so I have been able to immerse myself deeply in the most varied cultures and customs.
One ceremony with a Chinese bride and her family remains vividly in my memory. It was clear from the outset that her culture should be integrated into the ceremony. So we discussed and researched, and in the end we built in a Chinese tea ceremony performed together with her parents. It was wonderful to see how moved her parents were by it. Sometimes it does not take much to stir emotions or to give guests the feeling that they are part of this celebration of love. I like to welcome guests in their mother tongue, for instance, even when I do not speak it.
So let us celebrate love in all the colours of this world!
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